My Musings

A collection of essays and reflections on modern parenting, the craft of writing, and whatever else deserves a closer look. Honest, considered perspectives on the moments and ideas that shape how we live.

I Went for a Walk and Had My Safety Violated by a Social Deviant
Kacy Zurkus Kacy Zurkus

I Went for a Walk and Had My Safety Violated by a Social Deviant

My daughter and I were driving to an appointment last week on a gorgeous 60-degree day. 

“There are so many people out,” she noted.

“Spring is here,” I said. 

Even our dog is excited. She and I have been going out for walks every day. Much as I enjoy these walks, I’m reminded of the incident that happened a few years ago when I was out alone in my neighborhood. I was on a pipestem street, so in theory, there’s no reason for anyone who doesn’t live on the street to be driving on it. One of the homes was for sale, and coincidentally, as I ambled past, an on-coming car slowed and came to a stop. The driver, a young male alone in the car, rolled down his window as if to ask a question.

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Shattered Glass
Kacy Zurkus Kacy Zurkus

Shattered Glass

I’m not a poet by any stretch of the imagination, but sometimes—very rarely, I play with the genre just to satiate a little voice inside my head. I wrote this poem about a decade ago, and I’m sharing it here not because I think it’s great. Quite the contrary, actually.

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I Gave My Kids Cellphones. Now Schools Have to Deal with the Consequences
Kacy Zurkus Kacy Zurkus

I Gave My Kids Cellphones. Now Schools Have to Deal with the Consequences

I live in Massachusetts, and after spending the holidays with family who live in Virginia, I realized the disparate efforts to deal with cellphones and student distraction that are going on across the country. I also realized that parents–and I include myself in this because both my 11 and 13 year old have cell phones–have created this problem. In doing so, we passed the buck onto the schools leaving teachers and administrators to deal with the consequences.

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In the Solitude of ‘The Anti-Social Century’     Board Games Bring Families Together
Kacy Zurkus Kacy Zurkus

In the Solitude of ‘The Anti-Social Century’ Board Games Bring Families Together

Tis the season for thinking about resolutions, but my family of four has a long-standing promise that delivers fun all year long. It’s obvious that I’ll never be as interesting as YouTube, so I had to eliminate that competition with a ‘no devices at the table’ rule. Thanks to Cauldron Quest, Mantis, and other board games, my family creates our own fun.

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My Aging Body Feels Leaky A Faucet, And That's On a Good Day
Kacy Zurkus Kacy Zurkus

My Aging Body Feels Leaky A Faucet, And That's On a Good Day

I was in the middle of cooking dinner when I felt a sneeze coming on. Despite my best effort to still my body, engage my core, and tighten my pelvic floor as I’d learned to do in physical therapy, the ahhh-choo came and with it, a little burst of pee.

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